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【我如何控制脾氣】

How I Can Control My Temper

■   羅西恩  n   文 ■   By Sean Robertson

控制脾氣的方法有很多,其中之一是鬆弛自己,並做些使自己愉快的事。在我感覺到脾氣要起來的時候,我就數到十,或者我呼一口氣讓自己的情緒鬆弛下來,然後再與使我生氣的人好好談。如果這樣不管用,那我就走開讓自己平靜下來,自己一個人或帶著我的狗去散步,或者自言自語,有時也會幫助我平靜下來,而使我得以控制我的脾氣。

如果我不回嘴或爭論,我的脾氣會比較好控制。如果吩咐我的事情,我就去做,既不頂嘴也不討價還價,事情很快就做好了,而且也不會吵架。

一對來自嚴格禮教約束家庭的夫婦,放心地將五個女兒留在育良小學,及培德中學讀書,因為他們知道,在這裡不會有結交異性朋友的問題。二十年來,為了真正杜絕當代世界的流弊,上人力主男女分校,教令彼此自尊自重,並且曉喻學生們說:

重要的是不要為芝麻蒜皮小事不高興,我稱之為「不把小事當事」,不把小事當事,我的脾氣就比較聽話。

另外,與別人分享、對人好也很重要,因為別人也會對我好,跟我分享。如果大家都對人好,就沒有脾氣了。隨便搶或拿別人的東西是不對的,我們應該對人有禮貌並多為人著想,那樣別人就不會發脾氣了。如果別人搶或不問自取我的東西,我可以不理而控制我的脾氣,因為他們很快就會玩膩了而送回來。

我認為最有效的方法是走開,使自己平靜下來,然後再回來解決事情。

T here are many ways to control my temper. One is I can work on relaxing and enjoying my life. When I feel my temper rising, I can count to ten, or I can take a deep breath and try to relax, then I can try to work things out with the person I’m angry with. If that doesn’t work, I can just walk away and calm down by myself. Taking a walk by myself or with my dog, and talking to myself, sometimes helps me to calm down so I can control my temper.

I can control my temper better if I don’t argue or talk back. If I do what I am told without arguing or talking back, it gets done faster and doesn’t cause a fight.

It's important not to get upset over small things; I call it “don’t sweat the small stuff.” By not sweating the small stuff, my temper stays under control.

It is also important to share with others and to be kind to others so they will share and be kind to me. When everyone is kind to each other, tempers stay under control. It is not kind to grab or take things from each other; being polite and considerate helps so nobody will lose their temper. When someone does grab or take something without asking, I can control my temper by not worrying about it, because they will just get tired of playing with it and return it soon anyway.

I think the most effective way to control my temper is to walk away and calm down, then come back and work things out.

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